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Potty Training aagghh! No !Help! Mess! Stressful!
The thought of potty training can drive you to despair BUT it doesn’t have to be that hard or bad.
I am sure you will have so many people putting their 2 cents in on how to potty train a child and then if you have a stubborn, strong willed child, then it all seems so much harder but it doesn’t have to be.
First just breathe!
I had 2 kids with completely different temperaments and personalities. My son was a dare devil but a pretty cool mild tempered kid, he walked at 10 months old, slept in a big boy bed by 20 months old and was fully potty trained at 2 with it only taking him less than a week to train. Obviously he was ready and we never looked back.
My daughter on the other hand is stubborn, strong willed [but has the biggest heart.] Everything had to be done on her terms and in her own time, if you told her to do something she would do the opposite, she would only do things when she was ready. So trying to get her potty trained oh my that was a mission, after a couple of failed attempts and all my friends and family having a say on how it should be done, we decided to wait until she told us she was ready and when that happened she pretty much did it overnight.
PHEW thank goodness for that.
She did have a few set backs in the next few years as we moved states and houses and that was massive for a little one, but we just ran with it and it all worked out perfectly.
Now don’t despair if your child doesn’t show signs or refuses to go on the potty or toilet this is completely normal and you really need to be OK with that.
These are some of the most common questions Moms ask:
- How to actually potty train a strong willed child in 3 days?
- How to potty train a difficult child?
- How long does it take to potty train a boy?
- How to potty train a strong willed 3 year old?
- At what age should a child be fully potty trained?
- How to potty train your toddler boy?
- How do you know if your child is ready to be potty trained?
- How do you know if your child is NOT ready to be potty trained?
- How long should a child sit on the potty?
- How do I get my stubborn child to poop in the potty
- How often should I put my child on the potty?
I am going to try and answer a few of these questions and hopefully you will be feeling a lot more comfortable and relaxed about potty training your strong willed child or any natured child by the time you have finished reading this article.
At what age should a child be potty trained?
This is the most important question as you don’t want to train your child too quickly if they are not ready.
If they don’t show signs that they know they pooped or done pee in their diapers then they are too young. Kids need to understand the feeling/sensation of going to the toilet in their diapers, so they have some idea of when to go on the potty.
Please don’t try and push your child to be ready either as that will surely back fire ask me how I know??
From 18 months to 3 years is ideally the perfect time to potty train.
What do you need to start potty training?
Right lets get you ready so you are armed with the correct items to make you feel confident, which will come through to your child.
Start by reading this book, it is filled with expert advice.
This book will make it easier for you to get your child to start using the toilet. It doesn’t matter if your child is strong willed and stubborn they can still be potty trained in 3- 7 days.
This book has so many great reviews and seems to be loved by most who read it.
It has a 5 step plan that includes useful tips for succeeding every step of the way.
It gives you ideas on when to know your child is ready to be potty trained.
Keep calm through every accident takes the stress out of potty training. It is a must read if you want to get this right.
Also you will need a potty and or toilet training seat. You will have to decide if you want you child to be trained on the big toilet from the start or if you want to have a potty to move around the house.
I personally prefer a seat for the big toilet as that way they are trained from day one where the toilet is.
Everyone has their own opinion on this so what every suits your families needs is perfectly fine.
Toilet Trainer Seat
This step ladder toilet training seat is perfect if you want your toddler to go to the main toiled in the house.
The steps make it easier for them to get up on the toilet and the soft cushion potty seat makes it very comfortable to sit on.
This is perfect for girls and boys.
The ladder is adjustable so will fit most standard height toilets. (You can then just fold it up when not in uses.)
Useful Items to Help with Potty Training your Child
These extra items will help you get through the days of potty training if you want a potty that moves around the house with your child or even goes in the car for play dates then this Babyjorn potty chair is great.
You will also need potty training pants so your child feels like they are all grown up wearing undies and these ones are perfect just in case of an accident.
As with most things with kids, a reward chart is a great ideas so these Sesame Street Elmo Potty Training Books and Charts are a wonderful idea to get your child enthusiastic about potty training, even the most strong willed child loves a sticker chart.
Some expert advise before you start:
Toilet Training Without Tantrums, written by expert John Rosemond lets you know that potty training does not have to be complicated, emotionally draining, or stressful. Lately Potty training has become one of Mom’s greatest sources of anxiety and frustration during her child’s early years.
With the authors trademark parents take control style
This book is helpful, revealing, and funny. Plus his methods work! Thousands of parents have used it to discover how easy toilet training can be.
In this great book everything from the basic how-to and troubleshooting issues to successful testimonies and proper encouragement.
His straightforward and no-nonsense attitude utilizes simple steps with proven results. No arguing, bribing, or cajoling necessary. It helps parents avoid common toilet-training mistakes, and leads the way to a diaper-free household.
This would be a fantastic read for parents of strong willed children before you embark on the potty training as it will give you some reassurance that you can do it and just think it will be done in 1 week or so.
Some of the common questions you have will be answered in the 2 books I have recommended above and I am sure you will find so many other books you can read. I really think it is important to get yourself prepared before you embark on this fun journey you ave to stay focused and positive, you child will pick up on any negative thoughts and feeling you have around potty training.
You must remember that when you plan to start you have loads of time on your hands and you have patience. You must give positive reinforcement and stick to your rules, keep reading your books and remember you child stubborn or not will let you now when they are ready and when that happens you will find the whole thing a lot easier.
Be prepared for accidents as it is going to happen but don’t yell at you child as this will make things worse. See if they will help you clean it up, they may think yuk that is disgusting and that might trigger it in them to go to the toilet. Wearing undies will also help as they will feel it if they go, yes you will probably need a billion pairs of undies and they will go through a lot in the first few days but it will helps so much.
You got this mamma, just be consistent, strong willed as well and try and make the whole experience fun. There really is no point getting stressed over it. Just think their a millions of Moms doing it and have done it before you (you don’t see 21 year olds still in Diapers do you?)
How often should I put my child on the potty?
This is a question that get asked a lot by Moms who are potty training their child. I would say about every 20 minutes you should be asking them if they need to go as kids get so engrossed in play time that they forget so you have to remind them. If you are following along with the above books and what to complete your potty training in 3-7 days then you have to be very consistent so your child starts to understand the concept of having to go to the potty.
It is all a learning curve for kids just like everything they do. You have to be patient and always be on top of it. Please don’t be that parent who get distracted with their phone for hours on end and the get mad when your child pees on the floor. Please make this time about them and really put in the effort with them. It will only take 3-7 days even if your child is strong willed it can be done but you have to want it as well and put in the time and effort.
You can always put you phone alarm on for every 20-30 minutes as a reminded.
Why not get your child ones of these cool potty training watches. They will feel very important if they have a big kids watch, you know positive reinforcement and reminding them what BIG KIDS they are, are all steps in the right direction.
How To Potty Train a Strong Willed Child
If you child is strong willed like my daughter you might be worried that is is going to be hard or difficult but it doesn’t have to be, honestly! Before you start I suggest you just read as much as you can from the above books or online, have yourself a plan when you want to start. Look out for the signs that your child is ready.
When you start especially with you stubborn one make sure you are in complete control, don’t waiver don’t stress as your child will see your weakness and probably win.
Be consistent and very strong and just think that in 3- 7 days it should all be done and you will be so happy that you stuck with it and it worked.
okay before I finish up this post as it is getting quite long and I don’t want to overwhelm you before you even begin.
Below I am wanting to just add some extra products that might help you and your child on this little journey.
Did You Miss Something?
- At what age should a child be potty trained?
- What do you need to start potty training?
- Useful Items to Help with Potty Training your Child
- How often should I put my child on the potty?
- How To Potty Train a Strong Willed Child